HOW RELATIONSHIP COUNSELLING SAVED MY MARRIAGE

14 Mar

Written By OLIP THERAPY - Online and In Person Therapy

I had reached a point in my life, where I felt like everything was falling apart. My marriage appeared to be on the rocks, and I was unable to fix things no matter how hard I tried. It wasn't until we reached breaking point that we agreed to try relationship counselling, and things started to change for the better.

The first few sessions that we attended together were so difficult. We had to face the fact that our communication had really broken down over the years. With both of us so focused on our own needs, we were unable to see the other person's perspective. Counselling allowed us to open up and be vulnerable with each other, learning how to listen and communicate effectively.

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We also learned a lot about ourselves as individuals. Our counsellor was able to help us identify some of our own patterns and issues that we had brought into our marriage that were contributing to our marital difficulties. It wasn't only about fixing what had gone wrong between us; it was about working on ourselves as individuals too.

Another important lesson that we learned through counselling was how to fight fairly. It is inevitable that there will be disagreements in any marriage, but it is important to learn how to argue without our words ever becoming either hurtful or destructive. Our counsellor was able to teach us some valuable tools to help us resolve our conflicts in a healthier way.

I think the most significant change that came about from our counselling sessions was that we learned how to appreciate each other again. We had both fallen into the habit of taking each other for granted, always assuming that the other person would be there. Through counselling, we were able to remember why we fell in love in the first place, and then rediscover the things that had made our relationship so special.

Today, my husband and I have a healthier stronger marriage than we ever did before counselling. We still face challenges regularly, but now we know how to work through them as a team. If you are struggling in your relationship, I would thoroughly recommend you to consider relationship counselling. It could just save your marriage.